John and Marge (not their real names) had been looking forward to their retirement. The beaut new van was sitting in their driveway and John just could not wait to get her on the road. Marge’s father was fairly settled in the aged care village but she did feel that reluctance to leave , just in case he took a turn. Marge’s father encouraged them to go, ‘Don’t let me hold you back, you have to live every moment you get.” It was not easy balancing those two very important considerations for Marge and John.